Here are the top seven “don’ts” on a first date: 1.Don’t Mention the Ex Or how many other people you’re dating. Or which Patriots quarterback you’re lusting after.Thou Shalt Act like a Lady This means being polite and follow common laws of etiquette such as saying "please," "thank you," and "excuse me." Do not cuss.Men admire, trust and respect women with good manners. So I was more nervous to talk to the matchmaker herself, Patti Stanger, than I've ever been for a date with a man. Let's get to the good stuff (I'm obsessed!! Check out some of the biggest dating mistakes women make! You might get one good date a year, versus 100 bad ones, but he's worth it."They go out with their girlfriends in the hopes of meeting guys."When you're with your girlfriends, you're not approachable. Men who are quality aren't going to go in there and ask you out while your girlfriends are standing right there--he could get shot down. M., to go to the bar: Sit at the bar, have a cocktail, get an hors d'oeuvre, read a mutual-gender book like , know the score on TV, and pretend you're busy. Men know in one second, yes or no."They overshare on the date."Women are so trusting that they tell too much information about themselves. They say, "Oh, I had two cocktails, I'm all relaxed, now he's my best friend and I can tell him whatever I want." They're nervous, they drink too much, and they tell their life story—and sometimes their life story is not a good story to tell."They don't let the guy talk enough."The way you talk on a date should be like a tennis match, but the guy should talk three times as often. You don't say, ' Hey, do you want to get married? Most people do not have manners.".__Read more matchmaking advice, like 8 Tips to Getting Him to Notice You in 10 Days!They go on too many unproductive dates."It's better not to date unless you're out of practice. You're reading a book, you're eating an hors d'oeuvre, you're meeting a friend--and then you're more approachable because you're by yourself."They think a guy will always like them if he just gets to know them."A guy knows right away if he's attracted to you or not. And come back here tomorrow for part 2 of my interview with Patti Stanger.
Don’t Discuss God or Gingrich If the rule holds for family holidays, it holds for the first date. I have this theory: Women who travel in packs do not attract. They take in information; they decipher it and download it onto their computer. You can answer the question every time he volleys, but then you lead him with your question, and it should be topical to the conversation he's having. If he orders the dessert and you guys share it, say, "Oh, this is the best chocolate mousse, I'm so glad you picked this." Manners are key. You lead with what he's talking about."They forget their manners."The key to a good date is to smile. Let him lead and then you compliment little things along the way.“Never bring up religion and politics,” says Stanger.“You’ll get into a heated argument; most people do not generally agree, and when you go down that road you end up leaving the date quicker than not.” So if you’re jonesing for Jesus, or cuckoo for Christine O’Donnell, or outraged at Obama, Stanger advises to keep it to yourself, at least in the beginning.3. Negative Nelly.” Your date doesn’t need to hear about your former life as a coke-sniffing prostitute.Chemistry is the only thing that is a given so it does not need to be added to the list. If a man does not have all 10 things on your list do not step off the curb to date him no matter how handsome or rich he is. The first man is the front-runner on your list, the second one you are not sure about and the third one is the one who most likely will become a friend that you feel comfortable with.